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By Melissa Camacho
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Cursing, sex talk in voyeuristic virgin-themed dating show.
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Are You My First?
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What's the Story?
From the producers of Love Island USA comes ARE YOU MY FIRST?, an unscripted series featuring folks hoping to find the right person with whom they are comfortable losing their virginity. Former Bachelorette Kaitlyn Bristowe and Bachelor Colton Underwood host 16 single individuals who have never had sex at a tropical resort in Costa Rica. They are expected to mingle, play campy games, and hopefully find potential love (or at least physical connections) with people in the group. Some participants are given or win golden "V" cards, giving them the chance to choose someone to go out on a date. During "virgin suicides," singles who don't seem to be making productive connections, or who pose as competition, are voted off. New participants are then sent to the resort to take their places. Will the participants find someone to build a long-term relationship with, or at least someone with whom they're comfortable having sex?
Is It Any Good?
The voyeuristic unscripted series creates an artificial universe filled with relationship triangles, sexual tensions, betrayals, and other expected dramatic reality fare—but this time with virgins. Are You My First? features single men and women hoping to find someone with whom they want to have their first (heteronormative) physically intimate experience. It's similar to the Love Island franchise, with endless awkward moments, silly sex puns, and digs at other reality TV dating experiences. But the show also frames itself as a unique opportunity for virgin singles by creating (in theory) an equal playing field in which no one has to worry about being rejected simply because they've never had sexual intercourse. On the one hand, this creates a space in which virginity, and people's reasons for preserving and losing it, can be talked about openly (albeit briefly), without judgment or pressure. On the other hand, it also contextualizes one's virginal status as a burden to be rid of. Regardless of how you look at it, Are You My First? is hard to take seriously.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about sex. The media often makes it appear that most teens and adults are having it. Is this true? How do you know?
Is Are You My First? trying to de-stigmatize conversations about virginity? Or is it exploiting it for entertainment purposes?
TV Details
- Premiere date : August 18, 2025
- Cast : Kaitlyn Bristowe , Colton Underwood
- Network : Hulu
- Genre : Reality TV
- Topics : Family Stories , Friendship , School ( High School )
- TV rating :
- Last updated : September 5, 2025
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