The Bachelorette

TV review by
Kari Croop, Common Sense Media
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Televised search for love has an iffy premise.

Parents say

age 14+
Based on 7 reviews

Kids say

age 13+
Based on 8 reviews

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The parents' guide to what's in this TV show.

Positive Messages

Offers an unrealistic and misleading message that suggests that finding a husband on a reality show can produce a "fairy-tale ending."

Positive Role Models & Representations

The single men in the bachelorette's dating pool are relatively diverse in terms of what they do for a living and where they live, but reflect some sexist ideas about what it means to be attractive husband material.


There are shirtless guys a-plenty and sexual tension to spare. Some on-camera kissing takes place -- with the implication of hot and heavy action behind the scenes -- as the series progresses. The men living in the mansion's guest house also have to shower in an outdoor "stall" with no walls ... but their private parts stay covered with the aid of a black censor bar.


Pretty clean; "bastard" is audible, but terms like "a--hole" and worse are bleeped.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Most adult contestants drink alcohol socially, though one abstains for religious reasons.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this reality dating show has a troubling basic premise -- that it's both reasonable and feasible for a woman to hand-pick her future husband from a pool of 25 strangers. The producers are clearly pushing the idea of a "fairy-tale ending" for their fair bachelorette (the phrase is uttered four times in the season premiere alone). But as the series progresses, the emphasis quickly shifts to sexual chemistry, competition, and jealousy. The action is tame enough for older teens but too hot for tweens and younger -- not much besides kissing is shown, but plenty more is implied. Expect some salty language and drinking as well.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written bylaineywhite August 4, 2019

I will throw up

Greatly disgusted and massively disappointed in this show - The Bachelorette fails to teach good morals or realistic standards. Unless you want your child to ha... Continue reading
Adult Written bycheryl52 June 9, 2016

Not about finding love

The first several years of the show were fun, even endearing. The gowns and fashions were beautiful and the personalities and professions were varied and inter... Continue reading
Teen, 14 years old Written byDogcat April 25, 2020


Who on Earth watches this garbage!!!!!!!!!! I’ve never seen it but i think it’s just a steaming pile of romance garbage that’s just here to make money! Every on... Continue reading
Teen, 14 years old Written byUNICORN101 March 1, 2019

It's pretty OK

So it is kinda sketch and you probably think my advice sucks cuz I'm sorta young but here go's nothin' it has fairly bad messages but is pretty m... Continue reading

What's the story?

Building on the success of long-running reality dating show The Bachelor, this spin-off gives a jilted bachelorette who didn't get the proposal she was looking for on The Bachelor a second chance to find true love among her own pool of 25 single men. In an elimination-style series of one-on-one "dates" and group challenges, she gradually whittles her prospective suitors down to just one lucky guy, who's presumably the man she's going to marry.

Is it any good?

Unless you're a sucker for overwrought romance, THE BACHELORETTE is downright difficult to watch. The dramatic drive-ups in a limousine, the emotional rose ceremonies, the dramatically lit mansion with the glowing fireplaces -- it's all a bit much for a thinking person. But one thing's for sure: This show succeeds in preying upon our subconscious desire for fairy-tale endings.

While the bachelorette herself seems to have true intentions, it's unlikely that kids will learn any meaningful lessons from her search -- except that they should never, ever, sign up to become a future Bachelorette contestant.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the success rates of reality shows that purport to help people find "true love." What are the disadvantages to meeting your future spouse on a nationally televised dating show? Are there any advantages you can think of? Do you think the bachelorette's prospective mates are really looking for romance -- or their 15 minutes of fame? What about the bachelorette herself? Do you think her motives for being on the show are 100% genuine?

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