If Loving You Is Wrong

TV review by
Joyce Slaton, Common Sense Media
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Lust, drinking, domestic violence on soapy primetime drama.

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age 17+
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The parents' guide to what's in this TV show.

Positive Messages

Family values are front and center on the show, and parents are fallible people who make mistakes but may not learn from them. Deception is frequent on this soap but is usually followed by comeuppance.

Positive Role Models & Representations

Characters mean well but make poor choices frequently. In true soapy style, they enjoy (but then regret) their trespasses.

Violence

One character is abusive to his wife; we see him gripping her roughly as she begs him to let go. Jealous male characters threaten others with violence.

Sex

No nudity, but frequent scenes of infidelity, couples together in bed, and sex talk. Characters regret cheating on spouses, but their love scenes are played up with dramatic staging and music, which subverts that message.

Language

Mild cursing such as "You're damn right" in every show; gendered epithets such as "I'm not going to be disrespected by this bitch."

Consumerism
Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Characters drink on-screen, act drunk, and make poor choices when drinking, using alcohol as an excuse.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that If Loving You Is Wrong is a prime-time soap opera about a group of neighbors. In true soap opera fashion, particularly the nighttime variety, most of the drama comes from the characters' foibles. They deceive coworkers and bosses, cheat on their spouses, lie to their neighbors, and have terrible secrets that they eventually reveal with great fanfare. Viewers can expect to see many, many scenes of couples in bed or making out passionately in other locales, references to sex, unexpected pregnancies, infidelity, and sex scenes with no nudity but with moaning and writhing. One character is attempting to rid herself of a jealous and abusive ex-spouse; viewers will see him grabbing and handling her roughly as she begs for him to stop. He also screams that he won't be "disrespected by this bitch" and threatens violence due to sexual jealousy. Characters drink on-screen and act drunk, making poor choices and blaming alcohol.

User Reviews

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Adult Written bySfox S. November 29, 2016

What a Disgrace

The production and direction as well as unrealistic writing the shows are pathic. "If Loving you is Wrong " should be renamed "If watching it i... Continue reading
Adult Written byHyesha B. September 7, 2016

Overly stated

I love the show. However, I think it is drawn out way too long. I think it should be in a different place and topic then what it is now. I think there should... Continue reading

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What's the story?

In director Tyler Perry's hour-long nighttime soap IF LOVING YOU IS WRONG, a group of good-looking neighbors in a suburb lead interconnected lives. Alex (Amanda Clayton) has a hot husband, Brad (Aiden Turner), with whom she's falling out of love, particularly since she's started having an affair with her neighbor (and Brad's pal) Randal (Eltony Williams). A positive pregnancy test adds immensely to the complications. Meanwhile, Randal's long-suffering wife, Marcie (Heather Hemmens), is always rushing around with her busy real estate job, which brings her in contact with Natalie (April Parker Jones), a forthright single mom with four kids and a big secret. Esperanza (Zulay Henao) is trying to escape the clutches of her frightening ex, Edward (Joel Rush), in the arms of new flame Julius (Octavio Pizano), and Kelly (Edwina Findley Dickerson) is attempting to stay focused on her career and raising her young son after the death of her husband.

Is it any good?

Despite the decades and cultural gap that separate them, If Loving You Is Wrong resembles nothing so much as vintage Aaron Spelling soap Melrose Place. Did Tyler Perry -- whose other steamy soap, The Haves and the Have Notshas already carved itself a significant niche on OWN -- have this television touchstone in mind when he conceived of a soap built around a group of hot neighbors? Maybe, maybe not, but there's no denying that If Loving You has a similar vibe, as excitable neighbors meet each other, fall in forbidden love, conduct clandestine affairs, blow up their marriages, and start all over again.

The fact that the characters on this show are multi-ethnic, mostly African-American, gives If Loving You a hint of freshness, but basically these are the same old soap opera tropes you've seen before. Teens, however, may not have seen them, and their heads may be turned by all the sex and drama. If parents let them watch at all, they may want to watch along to counter any iffy messages.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the tradition of soap operas. When do they air on television? Who is the audience? What type of advertising and media attention do they attract?

  • Does If Loving You Is Wrong remind you of any other shows? Which ones? Is this show better or not as good? Why?

  • Are the characters on If Loving You Is Wrong wealthy or poor? How can you tell? How will the characters' social class affect the types of problems they will face on the show?

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