A Guide to Second Date Sex

Movie review by
Kat Halstead, Common Sense Media
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British dating comedy has sex, language but lacks chemistry.
  • NR
  • 2019
  • 98 minutes

Parents say

age 18+
Based on 1 review

Kids say

age 17+
Based on 2 reviews

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The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

Honesty and being true to yourself -- though these only come into effect toward the end of the movie and are not presented as particularly strong messages.

Positive Role Models & Representations

Laura and Ryan are both insecure and carrying baggage from previous relationships, which causes them to pretend to be something they are not. Both attempt to manipulate the other based on bad advice from friends, and do things they are uncomfortable with in order to gain the other's approval.

Violence

A character is hit in the face, but is not seriously injured. There is mention of a dead pet rabbit. "Comedic" reference to stabbing someone. A small amount of blood is visible after shaving. One character falls off a bed but is unharmed.

Sex

Sexual intercourse and oral sex are depicted on screen numerous times, as is kissing and masturbation. Some nudity from behind. Mention of porn, genitals, arousal, condoms, premature ejaculation, and pregnancy, as well as homosexuality and bisexuality.

Language

Frequent strong language includes "f--k" and "s--t," as well as "wank," "t-ts," "c--k," "d--k," "pissy," and "pissed." Passing jokes about pedophilia.

Consumerism
Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Characters regularly consume alcohol -- including beer, wine, shots, and champagne -- in a bar and at home and are seen to be visibly drunk. Cigarettes are also smoked on a number of occasions, though not by the main characters.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that A Guide to Second Date Sex is a British comedy, about a young man and woman on an incredibly awkward second date, and features adult themes. Due to the nature of the story, sex is referenced often and depicted onscreen -- including intercourse, oral sex, and masturbation -- though with little actual nudity. There is frequent strong language -- including "f--k" and "s--t" -- and serious issues such as pedophilia are mentioned in passing. The couple -- Laura (Alexandra Roach) and Ryan (George MacKay) -- meet in a club setting and consume alcohol through much of the movie. They are both seen to be drunk -- as are others around them -- and there are a number of instances where cigarettes are smoked. Characters try to impress each other and do things they are uncomfortable with in both social and sexual situations, which does not offer a positive message for younger viewers. On some platforms the movie is called 2nd Date Sex

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Teen, 13 years old Written bycheesebooger November 23, 2020

AGH!

It's uhm- romantic? xD It's not that bad. It says "bad words" that may be a little innaproprient. Also, it shows sexual stuff, so defintely... Continue reading
Teen, 13 years old Written byDanny_thefirst August 5, 2020

What's the story?

In A GUIDE TO SECOND DATE SEX, Laura (Alexandra Roach) and Ryan (George MacKay) meet in a club and experience an alcohol-fueled spark. They arrange a second date, but between baggage from previous relationships and terrible advice from friends, they are both unbearably nervous and unable to be themselves. An awkward evening unravels, in which housemates disrupt the flow, an unexpected visitor causes an explosive row, and Laura walks out more than once. Can they drop the pretense and open up to each other honestly or is this second date destined to be their last?

Is it any good?

Written by Rachel Hirons and her debut feature film as director, this moive has a strong premise at a time when realistic dating scenarios and flawed characters are popular tropes. Unfortunately it suffers in comparison to its more cleverly-crafted peers -- see Fleabag and Sex Education. Roach and MacKay embody relatable characters, but struggle to maintain momentum in what is essentially a two-hander without much support.

The pacing of A Guide to Second Date Sex is very uneven. The beginning is intercut with the high energy of the drunken first "date," while the middle is slow and drawn-out. The result is a dramatic climax that fails to hit the spot. Perhaps the material -- adapted from Hirons' stage play -- may have been better suited to a 30-minute episode than a full feature film.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about how A Guide to Second Date Sex portrays sex. How do Laura and Ryan approach it? Is it affectionate? Respectful? Parents, talk to your teens about your own values regarding sex and relationships.

  • Talk about the strong language in the movie. Does it seem necessary or excessive? What does it contribute to the movie?

  • How does the movie present drinking? Do you think the characters drink too much? Does their behavior seem realistic/believable? Are there consequences for what they do?

  • Both Laura and Ryan adapt their behavior for the date. Why do they feel they need to do so? Discuss the idea of being true to yourself and why that's important. 

  • How do Laura and Ryan change during the movie and what do they learn?  

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