Friends with Benefits

  • Review Date: July 22, 2011
  • Rated: R
  • Genre: Comedy
  • Release Year: 2011
  • Running Time: 104 minutes

Common Sense Media says

Lots of sexual content in formulaic but sweet romcom.
  • Review Date: July 22, 2011
  • Rated: R
  • Genre: Comedy
  • Release Year: 2011
  • Running Time: 104 minutes

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What parents need to know

Positive messages

Amid the sexual content, the message is that true love wins out, and that's always heartwarming and uplifting. But the movie makes a big deal about how romantic comedies raise unusual expectations about love ... and ends up doing the same thing itself.

Positive role models

Both Jamie and Dylan have good hearts and are actually supportive of each other. Jamie's mother isn't always mindful of her daughter's needs, but there's no malice, and Jamie is forgiving to her. Dylan, though pained by his father's Alzheimer's, is kind and solicitous.

Violence
Not applicable
Sex

You name it, they depict it (though there are no full-frontal shots or total nudity): Oral sex, intercourse (in many different positions and places), etc. There's plenty of raunchy talk, too, about both straight and gay sex, as well as open discussions about which acts are pleasurable and which aren't.

Language

Frequent (if not relentless) use of everything from "f--k" and "s--t" to "damn," "a--hole," "goddamn," "d--k," "p---y," and "c--k," though not a relentless amount of usage.

Consumerism

Some labels/brands, especially GQ magazine, which is name-checked a few times. Some placement of Sony products, including a Vaio laptop and an Ericsson phone; T-Mobile is mentioned.

Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Social drinking at parties and in bars and restaurants.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this R-rated romcom stars Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis as adult friends who decide to make their relationship sexual with no commitments (hence the "benefits" of the title). Consequently, there's plenty of frank, direct sexual talk and content, with partial nudity, simulated sex acts, innuendoes, and free-wheeling discussions about sexual preferences and relationships. There's also social drinking and swearing (including "s--t" and "f--k"). It's adult fare, but it does ultimately have positive messages about true love.

Parents say

Kids say

What's the story?

Hard-driving executive recruiter Jamie (Mila Kunis) successfully persuades up-and-coming art director Dylan (Justin Timberlake) to take a job offer from GQ magazine and move to New York from California. Before long, they've become good friends, watching (and deriding) romantic comedies, exploring the city, and getting to know each other. They've each just extricated themselves from a hilariously dysfunctional relationship and aren't eager to jump into new ones. One problem: They miss sex. Hence the agreement to be each other's commitment-free "friend with benefits." The arrangement works like a charm ... until it doesn't. Can their friendship survive the complications that romantic feelings bring, or should they be friends no more?

Is it any good?

QUALITY
 

Can a movie be formulaic and still be pretty good? In the case of FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS, the answer is a resounding yes. Though it tries hard to rise above the romcom cliches -- even going so far as to mock the fantasies that the worst movies of the genre spin -- it inevitably follows the same trajectories, serving up a happily-ever-after ending that the audience spots from the moment the two leads meet.

 

Still, Friends with Benefits is surprisingly entertaining, thanks in part to Kunis -- who combines comedic chops with gorgeous-but-approachable looks and a winning personality -- and a parade of gifted supporting actors (Jenna Elfman, Woody Harrelson, and the always tip-top Patricia Clarkson and Richard Jenkins) who can do no wrong. Timberlake manages to stay above water; sometimes, he's even persuasively charming. Yet you have to wonder what this movie could have been had it not given into the expected outcome, coming up instead with an ending that would still be satisfying but bold and -- dare we say it -- more realistic. No such luck.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about the idea of a "friends with benefits" relationship. What messages does that kind of arrangement convey about love and commitment? Parents, talk to your teens about your own values when it comes to dating and relationships.

  • The movie suggests that romantic comedies create unrealistic expectations in both men and (especially) women about relationships. Does this movie attempt to change these expectations or foster them?

  • Ultimately, what's the appeal of romantic comedies? Although they tend to follow the same predictable formula, they remain popular. Why do you think that is?

Movie details

Theatrical release date:July 22, 2011
DVD release date:December 2, 2011
Cast:Emma Stone, Justin Timberlake, Mila Kunis
Director:Will Gluck
Studio:Screen Gems
Genre:Comedy
Run time:104 minutes
MPAA rating:R
MPAA explanation:sexual content and language

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Parent Written byNikeswoosh99 December 28, 2012
AGE
11
QUALITY
 

Not as bad as the title makes it sound

This is a great movie and I found it humorous and just all around entertaining. The plot really isn't as bad as it's made out to be. There is no nudity and that's why I think that you should approach with caution but let your kids watch this if they know about sex. I told my kids about sex when they were ten years old; therefore I would let a 10 year-old watch it.
What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much swearing
Parent Written bymoviecritic101 January 14, 2012
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18
QUALITY
 

BAD.

This movie was NOT for kids. there is WAY to much sex in it. literally every other scene is sex. Hollywood needs to stop making films where all they do is try and promote teenage sex. it is not appropriate and it's getting old.
What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much drinking/drugs/smoking
Adult Written byAmericanplaya217 December 28, 2011
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13
QUALITY
 

good

good movie and sexual talk but the math in sexual behavior is very educational
What other families should know
Great messages
Great role models
Too much sex
Too much swearing

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