My Sister's Keeper

 
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Sad drama has heavy themes about illness, family.
  • Review Date: June 25, 2009
  • Rated: PG-13
  • Genre: Drama
  • Release Year: 2009
  • Running Time: 109 minutes

What parents need to know

Positive messages

A child sues her parents for medical emancipation while her terminally ill sister waits for her to donate a kidney. It sounds grim, but there’s actually a lot of love here -- the family is supportive of one another, though they're also suffering from the worries and fears attendant to the situation.

Positive role models

Family members stick together through thick and thin and are able to mine a deep wellspring of love and understanding.

Violence

A mother screams in anger and frustration at her husband and tries to block the van he’s driving. A mom slaps a child.

Sex

A teenage girl falls in love with a boy and nearly consummates their relationship (they're shown under covers holding each other, but later on, she intimates that she didn't go all the way). They also kiss and make out. Parents trade mild sexual innuendoes.

Language

"Goddammit," "s--t," "bitch," "hell," "damn," "oh my God," and one "f--k."

Consumerism

Products shown/mentioned include 7-Up, Dr. Pepper, and Chevrolet.

Drinking, drugs, & smoking

A teen is briefly shown tipsy and holding a bottle, seemingly having gotten drunk because she's angry at her condition. Social drinking by adults.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this tearjerking drama explores some heavy themes that younger audiences may find difficult to process without guidance. A teenager is terminally ill, and her march to the end is painful: She vomits after chemo, her hair and eyebrows fall out, and more. The effects of her illness on her family are are similarly heartbreaking to watch. The film also touches on teenage sexuality and drinking and has some fairly infrequent swearing, including "f--k" and "s--t."

What's the story?

Anna Fitzgerald (Abigail Breslin) was a wanted baby -- wanted more than anything in the world, because she was meant to save the life of her sister, Kate (Sofia Vassilieva), who's been battling leukemia since she was 2. The girls' mother, Sara (Cameron Diaz), vows to fend off death at all costs, even if it means using Anna as Kate’s lifeline; their father, Brian (Jason Patric), supports her but has to tamp down some doubts. And their son, Jesse (Evan Ellingson), struggles to be relevant in a household where cancer -- and any potential cure -- reigns above all else. Then, one day, Anna declares she’s had enough and, with the help of lawyer Campbell Alexander (Alec Baldwin), fights to be medically emancipated -- a move that could eliminate Kate’s last hope of survival.

Is it any good?

QUALITY
 

Based on Jodi Picoult’s same-named novel, MY SISTER’S KEEPER is a bona fide tearjerker. Given the subject matter, how could it not be? Director Nick Cassavetes has coaxed amazing performances from his first-rate cast, including Diaz, who surprises with the strength of her rage and melancholy as a mother determined not to see her child die. And the film does well what many other dramas about illness don’t: examine the toll that a prolonged sickness takes on everyone, not just the patient. The sibling relationships are especially nuanced; power imbalances are believably rendered right alongside deep familial love.

What keeps the film from achieving greatness is largely due to its structure. Characters tell their stories one at a time; it moves the plot along, but sometimes a little coercively. (There's a courtroom case embedded in the plotline, so the voiceovers do seem to make sense here. Nevertheless, they drain some of the power.) The movie tells you how to feel instead of taking you there.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about how a serious illness can change a family's dynamics. Does the movie accurately portray a family in distress? Does it find any bright side in a very sad story? How do movies generally depict terminal illnesses? Is this one any different?

  • Families can also discuss the consequences of teenage drinking, which the movie touches on briefly.

Movie details

Theatrical release date:June 26, 2009
DVD release date:November 17, 2009
Cast:Abigail Breslin, Cameron Diaz, Jason Patric
Director:Nick Cassavetes
Studio:New Line
Genre:Drama
Run time:109 minutes
MPAA rating:PG-13
MPAA explanation:mature thematic content, some disturbing images, sensuality, language and brief teen drinking

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Kid, 9 years old February 7, 2011
 

Um, k, dont bring lil sis into room! ;D xD

WOW! amazing! I luv it! Ya, who cares if i'm 9, but i've seen the ''Elizabeth Smart story'' and, '' Lovley Bones''. xD, but i think its not to appropiate for tweens, and teens that are sensitive. And, well, my mom got bored halfway through when she watched it a year ago but to me it is AMAZING, but i read u guys's comments and some were asking if there were any blood in it besides the girl throwing up. YES, A LOT! The girl with cancer gets purple lips, at the beggining she throws up blood.......u get the point. But it's defintly not a horror movie, i'll tell u tht. I actually think it is quite a heartwarming movie, but if you are going to watch it, make sure ur little sis isn't in the room. ;D Haha. Pretty good advice from a little sis, dont ya think?
What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much swearing
Too much consumerism
Great messages
Great role models
Adult Written byexpert on movies November 29, 2009
 

GREAT FOR 11 and up!!!!

my 11 year old watched this at her friends house and when she came home she said "that movie was amazing really enjoyed watching it with my friend!" So i watched it and it was a spectactular movie that wasnt that bad. The sex wasnt that bad either. But what i was slightly concerned about was the images my daughter was seeing of a child suffering cancer... But i decided that she was mature enough to handle it
Adult Written bygabbygirlcuccaro July 1, 2010
 

Are you in the mood for a sad movie?

This is a heartwarming but sad movie.It makes you realize what people with cancer good through. I recommend it.
What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much swearing
Too much drinking/drugs/smoking
Great messages
Great role models

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