She's Out of My League

Movie review by
Jeffrey M. Anderson, Common Sense Media
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Vulgar, sex-obsessed comedy but with a good heart.
  • R
  • 2010
  • 104 minutes

Parents say

age 14+
Based on 6 reviews

Kids say

age 14+
Based on 5 reviews

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The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

Believe it or not, among all the vulgar humor, the movie has a solidly positive message about being true to oneself and valuing people based on their character instead of their looks. Though most of the film is spent rating people on their appearance, and giving them 1-to-10 ratings (Molly [Alice Eve] is a "hard ten," while Kirk [Jay Baruchel] is a "five"), Kirk, and all the other characters as well, come to learn that who a person is inside counts for more.

Positive Role Models & Representations

Kirk works toward changing the negative things in his life, and even if he sometimes succumbs to self-pity, he usually lands on his feet. Toward the movie's end, he has given up on his dreams, but his friends do the right thing and help him out. He eventually learns to believe in himself, and honestly earns the love of Molly. Lots of teasing, especially early in the movie.


The movie has some comic violence, such as a chase through an airport with characters slamming into each other. We also see a hockey puck to the groin, as well as some violence at a hockey game. Other than that, there is some mild scuffling and minor threats.


This is a highly sex-obsessed movie, with constant references to male and female body parts and lots of sex talk (including references to homosexuality), but hardly any nudity. In one major scene, a girl sits in a boy's lap and grinds away on him while kissing; he ejaculates prematurely (though nothing sensitive is visible), which is then used as the source for several more jokes. Later, the same boy and girl strip down to their underwear, preparing for sex (which does not happen). We see one naked male butt. A man climbs out of a pool wearing white underpants, revealing some of his pubic hair. The lead character shaves his pubic hair (with some help from a friend), and though very little is actually shown, everything is implied.


We have almost constant swearing, with countless uses of the word "f--k" in all its permutations. The movie also contains multiple uses of, but is not limited to: "s--t," "Goddamn it," "my God," "balls," "p---y," "ass," "bitch," "dick," plus insults like "moron" and jargon like "raw-dogging" and "jizzed." We also see the extended middle finger.


An iPhone plays a major part in the two heroes getting together. When the girl gets it back after losing it, her response is something like "You saved my life." The hero drives a Dodge Neon, which is constantly referred to in a joking manner.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

The characters are all of drinking age, and drink often, but not to overindulgence. Characters drink beer, wine, champagne, and martinis. In one scene, there is a joke about alcoholism. A father asks his son for a beer. The son replies, "Are you sure?" The father replies, "What are you, my sponsor?" In another scene, a nervous, flustered Kirk gulps down a martini, which seems to have little effect on him.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that She's Out of My League is like the recent slew of Judd Apatow and Apatow-inspired comedies that are slathered in exceedingly vulgar humor, but also have a sweet, endearing center. The film has little nudity, but because of the frequency and intensity of the language (including near-constant "f--k" and "s--t") and sexual situations (including a scene that revolves around premature ejaculation), it's best for kids and tweens to steer clear. Happily, the movie has a good heart and a good message about learning to believe in yourself regardless of looks, which is perfect for responsible older teens. Young-at-heart parents might enjoy the movie as well, even if most teens won't want to sit next to them.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byLindstheteacher August 1, 2020

This Movie Will Make Adults Uncomfortable

I recently saw this movie with some other adults. We wanted to watch it because the description seemed interesting, but by the end of the movie we could agree... Continue reading
Adult Written bykhan2705 November 12, 2010

decent sweet charming movie with some flaws.

i am surprised that this movie turned out to be somehow charming and convincing. This is an unlikely love story that is a really sweet romantic comedy. a very s... Continue reading
Teen, 17 years old Written byPlayItSafe July 20, 2010

Awesome! Not for kids.

Some sexual scenes but not to bad. Also there is a guy shaving another guys privates (which are not shown) which is hysterical but not a good thing for children... Continue reading
Teen, 13 years old Written byMissohsofabulous October 6, 2014

Factors need to be included...

'She's out of my league' is basically a movie about an insecure guy wanting to be with a really pretty girl.

At first him and his friends belie... Continue reading

What's the story?

Skinny, nerdy Kirk (Jay Baruchel) never finished college, works as an airport security agent in Pittsburgh, drives a crappy car, and pines for a girl who broke up with him two years ago. When a "hard ten," the gorgeous Molly (Alice Eve), comes through the metal detector and misplaces her iPhone, Kirk retrieves it and wins Molly's gratitude -- and a date. They grow to genuinely like one another, but no one around them believes their relationship is meant to last: Molly is just too beautiful for Kirk. Will Kirk listen to his friends and family, or will he learn to believe in himself?

Is it any good?

It's a little rushed, and a little rough around the edges, but SHE'S OUT OF MY LEAGUE is genuinely nutty and funny, and with some likeable characters at its center. It's apparently necessary to fill the movie with vulgar humor and sexual situations in order to sell it in the marketplace, but fortunately, the writing is fairly sharp, and with only a couple of those "big reaction" scenes that the filmmakers want everyone to talk about, wedged in.

Though many romantic comedies base their plots around lies and other ridiculous situations, this one gets points for characters that try to speak honestly; it's very simply about two people who are trying to connect but don't know how. English actress Alice Eve lends some soul to her "pretty girl" character and Jay Baruchel brings a unique look and appealing confidence to the "gangly nerd" type that is so popular today.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the way characters are rated on a scale of 1-to-10. What characteristics make someone a 10? Why is this so? Wouldn't different people be rated differently depending on how we see them? Is rating people worthwhile or not worthwhile?

  • Molly initially judged Kirk by his appearance as someone who was "safe" for her and wouldn't hurt her. Was she right?

  • After Kirk's most embarrassing moment, he manages to apologize to Molly by telling her the whole, embarrassing, ugly truth: and it works. Is telling the truth a good way to start believing in yourself?

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