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The Help

Poignant, thought-provoking civil rights tale.
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  • Rated: PG-13
  • Genre: Drama
  • Release Year: 2011
  • Running Time: 137 minutes

What parents need to know

Positive messages

The movie doesn't sugarcoat the difficulties of being African American in Jim Crow Mississippi, but there are positive messages about how the '60s were a revolutionary time for civil rights, even as so many had to die to achieve it. Through Skeeter, Aibileen, and Minny's partnership, the idea that a member of the "elite" class can find common ground with disenfranchised African-American servants is critical to the movie, even if it was improbable in real life.

Positive role models

Skeeter starts her book project because she wants to be published, but as she gets to know Aibileen and Minny, she realizes that her book is an important exercise in getting disenfranchised voices heard. Aibileen and Minny bravely, carefully buck the Southern system of Jim Crow to share their stories with Skeeter. Aibileen teaches the little girl in her care to be self-confident and loving. Skeeter suffers the consequences of her actions but realizes it was for the best. Skeeter's mom has a change of heart about the way she treated their family housekeeper. Celia sees Minny as an equal and actually befriends her, and Minny helps save Celia from misery.


Minny is domestically abused; it happens off-camera, but viewers do see her with bruises on her face. The assassination of civil rights activist Medgar Evers is a key moment in the film; President Kennedy's assassination is also discussed. In a disturbing scene, a character suffers a miscarriage and is shown sitting in a small pool of blood. A police officer is rough with an African-American woman he arrests (and her friends), even hitting her in the head with his night stick. Parents sensitive to physical discipline should know that a parent spanks her child for a minor "mistake." A mother recounts how her son was basically left for dead by his white employers; another woman explains how she was threatened at gun point. The maids seem genuinely fearful of white men, whom they know could kill them without any repercussions.


For the first half of the movie, there's virtually no sexuality (except for the occasional presence of Celia, who wears form-fitting outfits and has considerable cleavage). In the second half, Skeeter goes on a date that turns into her first serious relationship, although she and her boyfriend only kiss and hold hands. A woman's history of multiple miscarriages is discussed; she and her husband are depicted as playful and flirty. Other married couples embrace and dance at a holiday gala.


The word "s--t" is of prominent importance to the storyline and is said several times throughout the movie. Other language includes "damn," "hell," "jackass," "a--hole," "goddamn," "oh my God," and the "N" word, which is used once, in a casual, matter-of-fact way: "Some n---er just got shot, now y'all got to get off the bus." Hilly often pronounces the words "negro" and "negra" in a way that sounds like "niggra." Other insults used toward the help include "thievin'," "sass-mouthin'," and "no-good."


Coca-Cola is shown a couple of times, as is a Piggly Wiggly supermarket.

Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Accurately for the '60s setting, almost everyone in the movie (even a pregnant character) smokes. One character orders drink after drink on a blind date. A woman gets drunk at a party and accidentally rips her social rival's sleeve; she then throws up on her adversary's party gown.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this emotionally intense adaptation of Kathryn Stockett's best-selling civil rights-era novel isn't likely to appeal to young kids but is a historically relevant drama that mature tweens and teens can see with their parents. The film not only teaches about segregation and the importance of racial equality, but it also shows how oppressed people have important stories to tell. The language is tame for a PG-13 movie except for the word "s--t," which is used several times, and one casual use of the "N" word by a bus driver. African Americans are referred to as "negro," and a grown-up restaurant worker is called "boy" by white patrons. There's no graphic violence, but a character is obviously physically abused by her husband, and a woman has a miscarriage, leaving her in a pool of her blood. Reflecting the '60s setting, almost everyone (even a pregnant woman) smokes cigarettes and drinks.

What's the story?

Skeeter (Emma Stone) is one of the few young women in her upper-crust circle to actually graduate from college. She returns home to Jackson, Miss., where all of her friends are married young mothers who let their African-American maids do the heavy lifting while they gather for bridge games, gossip, and charity-ball planning. Unfulfilled with her job as a household-tips columnist, Skeeter pitches a book idea to a New York city editor (Mary Steenburgen): She'll write a collection of stories about THE HELP, from their point of view. But first Skeeter must convince her friends' housekeepers -- starting with Aibileen (Viola Davis) -- to be interviewed for the project. Hesitant at first, Aibileen eventually relents and nudges her best friend, the recently fired Minny (Octavia Spencer), to tell the truth about raising and loving white children who grow up to be just as racist as their parents.

Is it any good?


All of the performances are remarkable in this drama. On the surface, The Help looks like yet another civil rights story told from the perspective of an open-minded white character who acts as the catalyst for change. But director Tate Taylor is careful not to put an overwhelming spotlight on Skeeter at the expense of Aibileen (who narrates the drama) or Minny. Stone continues to solidify her stellar reputation with her understated performance as the ambitious but slightly misfit young writer. But the real revelations are Davis, who's such a nuanced actress that she can elicit a storm of emotions with her soul-piercing stare, and relative newcomer Spencer, who's not only playing the opinionated Minny but is her inspiration (she's a close friend of both the author and director). Both actresses are deserving of an Academy Award nominations.

There's not a flat note in the production, although special mention must be made of scene-stealers Bryce Dallas Howard and Jessica Chastain. Howard plays Hilly Holbrook, one of the meanest, most heartless villains this side of Cruella DeVil. She's the Junior League set's queen bee and is so racist that she wants a bill passed forcing white homes to have a separate bathroom for their black servants. Chastain, who wowed critics in The Tree of Life, lets loose as Minny's kind and charismatic employer, who's desperate for a friend. The Help is one of those perfect movies for parents and mature tweens/teens to see together. It sparks discussion, teaches a history lesson, and makes everyone think about how we treat others. And yes, don't forget the tissues. There will be weeping.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about how the movie depicts African Americans' struggle for racial equality. How accurate do you think it is? How could you find out more about this part of history?

  • Are the characters realistic? Do you consider any of them to be stereotypes? If so, why?

  • Some have criticized Stockett's story for making a white character central to the civil rights movement. How is the movie sensitive to this issue? What did you learn about the South under Jim Crow laws?

  • For those who've read the book, how faithful is the movie adaptation? What changes did you like? What do you wish the director had included?

Movie details

Theatrical release date:August 12, 2011
DVD/Streaming release date:December 6, 2011
Cast:Bryce Dallas Howard, Emma Stone, Octavia Spencer, Viola Davis
Director:Tate Taylor
Run time:137 minutes
MPAA rating:PG-13
MPAA explanation:thematic material

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Kid, 10 years old August 13, 2011

Really Touching Movie

Overall, this was a really, really sweet movie! Of course, there was a lot of swearing, drinking, and smoking, but that was probably because the movie was set in the 1960s. There were some sort of disturbing parts as well, a lot of beating. Also, there was some exposure and abuse of and to women that I did not really think was apropriate or necessary. The reviews about why this movie was PG-13 did not really say anything about that. But mostly, the movie was about kind and good role models, so that is mostly what I took notice of. The whole idea of civil rights and racist people and everything back then might be a little bit confusing to some kids, or a little bit scary, but there was a lot of change for the better. The movie seemed very historically accurate, and it was a well-written story that was really moving, and it made me realize what a happy and safe environment our country is for the most part today. I realized that I sort of took for granted all of the kindness people have shown me, despite our differences.
What other families should know
Great messages
Great role models
Too much swearing
Too much drinking/drugs/smoking
Parent of a 11 year old Written byreinzig August 11, 2011

Wonderful film, great message, good education

Saw it the day it opened with our 11 year old daughter. Yes, I noted that it has "language my child cant' use", but she knows that--she's heard such words before, and does not use them, so no harm done. Really good education about a time and place that is different in so many ways than our own, and not so different in other ways--great opening for discussion of racism, the civil rights movement, the differences between where we live and the deep south, etc. Nicely done, nicely acted. Highly recommended. On the other hand, if you have a kid who is accustomed only to "kids" movies or is not really up to the subject matter, I would NOT advise it. It's not a "light afternoon at the movies". I'd hate to take a kid who got out and said "well, that was boring" because it didn't have action or animation or slapstick or teen idols (or whatever they're used to watching). I guess the same goes for parents--depends what kind of movies you like.
What other families should know
Great messages
Great role models
Too much swearing
Parent Written bycindyo August 14, 2011

Fabulous - go see!

We took our 11 year old last night to see this movie. Fantastic choice! Very kid appropriate and teaches them about race relations especially in the early 1900s. The story is well written, truthful and at times you'll find yourself just about crying from laughter.
What other families should know
Great messages
Great role models