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Parents' Guide to

The Notebook

By Nell Minow, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 14+

More sexy stuff than you'd expect for a syrupy romance.

Movie PG-13 2004 124 minutes
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Community Reviews

age 15+

Based on 30 parent reviews

age 17+

Enjoyed the movie; should be rated R.

I did enjoy the movie, but this movie should not be rated PG-13. There is no way in hell I’d show this to a thirteen year old. Graphic sex, moaning, implied orgasm. I think the movie should be rated R, so I think 17 would be the best age, although perhaps a really mature 16 year old could watch it.

This title has:

Great messages
Too much sex
5 people found this helpful.
age 17+

how's nobody talking about the toxic relationships in this???

forget the sex scenes, why is nobody talking about the toxic relationships/cheating in this movie? 1. noah literally threatens ally to go on a date with him in the beginning by hanging onto a ferris wheel 2. ally and noah literally have nothing in common; theyre only dating after noah saw ally and decided he should date her (pretty much why i hate "love at first sight" cliches) 3.they both cheat on other people!! (ally cheats on her fiance, noah used to sleep with some war widow) my list of why i hate this movie could go on; i honestly don't understand why all of the other girls in my class were fawning over this movie last year in high school
5 people found this helpful.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say (30 ):
Kids say (103 ):

In THE NOTEBOOK, the details and dialog are a bit clumsy, but in the end romantics won't care. Also, it's hard to believe in Allie's feelings for Noah or Lon, partly because none of them ever come alive as characters. It's all description, not depiction.

We do care about the couple in the nursing home, but the connection to the other story is never strong enough to keep our attention. Gosling is one of the most talented actors of his generation, but he's not as good in this role. James Garner, Gena Rowlands, Sam Shepard as Noah's father and Joan Allen as Allie's mother give the material more than it deserves, and director Nick Cassavetes clearly wants this film to be a love letter to Rowlands, his mother. She is luminous, and we do believe she could inspire great love. Too bad the movie isn't a little bit better.

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