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You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah

By Jennifer Green, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 13+

Book-based coming-of-age tale has language, crude humor.

Movie PG-13 2023 104 minutes
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah movie poster: Tweens come of age.

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Community Reviews

age 12+

Based on 8 parent reviews

age 12+

Cute movie about growing up

"You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah" was a very cute movie and did show the transition into being a teenager and growing up pretty accurately. It was very funny. I think it is appropriate for 12+, there are a few sex-related jokes (but it's how a 13 year old would be) and some swearing.
age 12+

Growing Up is Hard

What a fantastic coming-of-age film for a young Jewish girl and her best friend. The movie is perfect for the whole family.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say (8 ):
Kids say (26 ):

This film has Judy Blume written all over it, but its main character lacks the genuine naivete that makes Blume's tween characters so lovable. Playing Stacy in You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah, Sunny Sandler (Adam's daughter) wades into mean girl territory with her friends, poses and pouts for her male crush, and vamps in a sexy outfit for TikTok. It feels like a decidedly LA version of tweenhood. If you are only picking one tween girl flick this year, go with Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret.

That's not to say that Sunny doesn't play the character well, and it appears that all the Sandlers had a lot of fun making this movie. There are likely inside jokes galore here. Papa Sandler is in relax mode and lets his daughter take top billing, with family interactions feeling, well, pretty real. Same with the cameos and portrayals in the multigenerational Jewish community, though Sherman's performance as Rabbi Rebecca is more grating than great.

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