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By Melissa Camacho, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 16+

Thriller series explores stalking from stalker's POV.

TV Netflix Drama 2018
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A Lot or a Little?

What you will—and won't—find in this TV show.

Community Reviews

age 17+

Based on 17 parent reviews

age 18+

No not for kids

Be a parent don’t let your kids watch this! I seriously can not believe people would let 13/14 year olds watch these sex scenes/masturbation scenes . That’s actually quiet disgusting

This title has:

Too much sex
Too much swearing
8 people found this helpful.
age 18+

My Rating 18+

More sex scenes than I can count, Extreme use of language,Nudity in season 3,masturbation,Tons of violence,Main characters a stalker etc.

This title has:

Too much violence
Too much sex
Too much swearing
4 people found this helpful.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say (17 ):
Kids say (78 ):

This dark and disturbing drama is uniquely told from the point of view of a smart young man obsessed with a woman he barely knows and begins to stalk. Joe's inner monologue allows viewers to listen to the way he makes sense of his irrational feelings, and how he's unable to see in himself the violent, abusive characteristics that he loathes in other men. They also get to see how his sexual fantasies are driving him, and how easily social media aids him in his efforts. As he manages to justify his actions to himself, he reveals a familiarity with the process that makes you suspect that he's done this before. In later seasons, as he interacts with individuals like Love Quinn (Victoria Pedretti), his behavior is even more bewildering.

While You offers some suspense, it also offers a distorted way of looking at Joe's criminal behavior. He's characterized as a likable man motivated by a desire to be loved. His inner banter is filled with one-liners and quips, and some of the charmingly awkward exchanges during his planned "accidental" meetings with the women he is obsessed with create some lighthearted but alarming moments. This makes it easier for viewers to see Joe's actions as OK while still finding themselves horrified about the violent acts he commits. Some may look past this for entertainment's sake, but it's also easy to point to the series as an example of how violence, particularly against women, can be minimized by the media.

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