Parents' Guide to Dance Moms

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Common Sense Media Review

Emily Ashby By Emily Ashby , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 11+

Arguing and drama in kids' competitive dance world.

Parents Need to Know

Why Age 11+?

Any Positive Content?

Parent and Kid Reviews

age 13+

Based on 64 parent reviews

age 11+

Based on 217 kid reviews

Kids say the show is addictive and entertaining, filled with drama between moms and harsh treatment of the young dancers, often providing an unrealistic and sometimes toxic portrayal of competition. While some believe it's suitable for viewers aged 10 and up, many reviews highlight concerns about inappropriate behavior, explicit language, and troubling role models, making parental discretion essential.

  • addictive viewing
  • negative role models
  • inappropriate content
  • dramatic interactions
  • mature themes
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What's the Story?

DANCE MOMS takes viewers behind the glitz and glamour of the competitive dance culture as it plays out for the members of the renowned Abby Lee Dance Company. Professional choreographer and dance coach Abby Lee Miller hasn't built her revered reputation by accident, but her controversial methods of motivating her students -– some of whom are as young as 6 –- don't always sit well with the dancers or their parents. This explosive series follows the dance company's quest for a coveted national title and examines the physical, emotional, and financial sacrifices the families make for their kids' success, all the while raising the issue of whether the rewards outweigh the struggles for the young stars at the heart of the mayhem.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say ( 64 ):
Kids say ( 217 ):

Dance Moms squeezes entertainment value out of tense verbal exchanges between adults, infighting among the dance company members (both adults and kids), and Miller's extreme coaching style that often wreaks havoc on the students' emotional well-being. Watching her berate her dancers and encourage competition among them is downright uncomfortable to watch at times, and it's impossible not to feel for the kids when the adults –- some mothers included -– disregard their emotions. It also raises the question of how much pressure is too much to put on kids and what effect the dancers' perceived failure will have on their self-confidence.

This series lends itself to discussions about body image as well, since so many demands are placed on these young dancers to look and act a preconceived part. Sex appeal is a stated goal in some of the dance moves, which creates tension between Miller and the dancers' parents and forces the kids into the middle of the exchanges. Most strong language is edited, but drinking alcohol is presented as a reliable method for adults to cope with the stresses of the competitive atmosphere. Ultimately this is just another example of sensationalized reality TV, made more offensive by its willingness to thrust kids into the spotlight, but it's still bound to draw viewers who like to watch controversy unfold. It does, however, expose viewers to a little-known atmosphere of dance competition and includes some fleeting celebratory moments when the dancers achieve their longstanding goals.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about self-image. How do outside factors like other people's impressions of you affect how you view yourself? What messages does society send to you about what's acceptable? Is it difficult to challenge those guidelines?

  • What are the benefits of competition? What life lessons can be learned from competing? How does it feel to win? To lose? How can losing motivate us to improve?

  • What do you expect in a role model? What character traits are important to you? Is success always a factor? What about things like compassion, inspiration, and generosity? How are those traits viewed in our society?

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